ok
let me see if I can try to explain my previous blog

A guy SHOULD always respect a woman's opinion and not try to change her mind when its something important, say for example, trying to make her disown her friends, or have sex when she really doesn't want to, or make her lie, something like that.....

however, there are circumstances, when a woman (and a man too) can be very anal, and not really willing to try new things, say for example a relationship with someone they wouldn't ordinarily go out with or something a little more risque that is legal and not morally unethical, by all means the guy has the right to try to persuade the girl to try something new........

in fact sometimes if the guy is really good at persuasion it would make the relationship all the better, note well I say PERSUADE! persuasion is not saying, OHMYGOD you're being such a baby! just try it NUH!!! (that is not persuasion) at all times the guy should respect her opinion, and try to encourage her while still making her feel like she isn't losing anything

HOWEVER, this is not to say, that if a woman makes a point of saying from the get go that she isn't interested in something, the guy should be no really means yes and try to force her into something she doesn't want to do. Forcing is most definitely NOT persuasion, there is a HUGE difference, and I think that's where the problem comes from.

and why is it that men think they can change your mind about something by saying
"no, don't worry you'll see it my way?"

WTF!

is there something wrong with wanting some kinda creativity?

I mean a man is REALLY talented when he can get you do something you wouldn't ordinarily do in a way that you don't even realise
on a dif level the guy should respect your opinion and NOT try to change your mind but see then I'd have to break it down for you for you to understand, why men have to TRY changing women's minds but not piss them off, and still respect the woman's mind at the same time

ok I think I have to rethink that when I get a chance I'll break it down more simply when I get a chance

boy
call me difficult self centered whatever
but if its ONE thing I cannot stand! its a fella who is trying to chat you up, who isn't even going to give you the respect to speak with you with most of his attention.

case in point, I met a guy who is exhibiting most signs of interest, wanting to keep in contact in some form, email, phone number etc, YET, whenever this does happen, communication or contact that is, you can tell he is doing something else, the conversation sounds disjointed, distracted.

now, I really wasn't concerned, (whole closed for stocktaking thing) but I did find it interesting that this guy (and he isn't the first) would act like he's interested, but then have piss poor conversations. I mean communication is the essence of relationships, any kind of relationship, and if people don't at least TRY to talk with each other, and get to understand each other all is lost!

so I asked him, (playing dumb and all) why do you call me and message me? what is your motive,


ME: tell me something
how come you call me and message me?
he says: i think you are a nice person and i would like to get to know you better.....maybe sometime we could go out
Me: but you never really speak to me its very VERY small talk
He says:i know
ME: in fact your friend talks to me more than you do
He says: i am not really a phone person it is not that i dont want to talk..........lately have been a bit busy........
Me: I see (SO WHY IS HE CALLING ME THEN IF HE'S BUSY???) fair enough
anyway have a good nite
He says:you sound upset.........are you? (My real man wouldn't have to ask that question!)
Me: oh no not at all just was unclear if you were attempting to be interested, why you seemed disinterested when you called
he says : i am interested.........are u? (hahah here you go!)
me: in you? to be honest you really haven't impressed me with how you're trying to impress me lack of attention so to speak not my kinda thing but apart from that I'm really not interested in getting involved with anyone
He says:ok.........i was not trying to impress you........just trying to get to know you
ME: no I don't think you were cuz your conversations weren't conversations
so you weren't trying to get to know me

we bantered for a while about whether he was a phone person or not, talking is very important to me
if I can't talk to someone and be interested in what they are saying, and have them at least attempt to be interested in what I'm saying
its pointless


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you know another thing I've noticed, for men its either ALL or nothing, its either they have you in a relationship or you don't exist to them!
Burn and scottie, you are like diamonds in the rough!
you guys are cool, can lime with me, don't try to fill my head with incessant stupid compliments !

oh that's another thing I REALLY REALLY DO NOT like compliments! the stupid ones that mean absolutely NOTHING
and further more! when they draw my friends aside, to go on about how great I am, I hate that, I really hate that!

why is it men feel that they HAVE to piss you off, just so they can find out how you're going to react?
is it that people like to get you angry? God I hope that's not right

so I pulled an all niter
its amazing what a little bit of stress, four cups of coffee, a red bull and gatorade will do
it will keep you up
I don't even really feel to tired
It's the sheer panic
I tell you once I close my eyes I'll be freaking out that I'm wasting time!

7 days til the exam!
*whew*
BREATHE
BREATHE
BREATHE

boy yesterday was a whopper of a day, I was blindsided by the news of Kregg Nurse's death, I mean I didn't even know that he was in the hospital.....I mean this guy used to come lime with the smirnoff ice girls real cool such a shame.....

yesterday was apparently the 5th anniversay of the Columbine shooting, and three months since my grandpa died

needless to say I was offset, for most of the day and not really knowing why....it was only til later on that I realised what yesterday was.

plus the fact that I'm actively stressing about my upcoming exams, and paper yes I know I played the ass this semester
but I REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want to fail anything!
surely that must count for SOMETHING!

:D

my GOODNESS
sometimes men are just so fricking stubborn! they just do NOT listen to a word that comes out of you mouth
and its as if they just see your face and the words are mute, they not hearing you!
ARRGH!

I cannot stand that!